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Vivian SL's avatar

I too have created boundaries “rules” in my life to be my best. Especially with ill behavior. Like you, they become easy to keep, the structure provides me comfort and confidence. At almost sixty, I have several Vivian life rules.

I too have alcohol abuse in my family though thankfully I don’t have any issues with it. At this point, I’m getting ready to become a kidney donor so I am now completely abstaining while my husband who is also in the same situation will have a beer or a glass of wine now and again which is allowed. It’s only been a few months but it’s been an interesting experience in social settings where I would have been drinking. Completely unexpectedly enjoying it and I have thought that perhaps I may lose a few pounds in the process (always good). I have to take a look at your hangover prevention plan.

Thank you Alex, great post, and be well.

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Alex McBrairty's avatar

Thank so much for sharing, Vivian. I love to hear the success you've had and joy you've found in abiding by your personal rules. I've seen many folks shy away from setting similar personal boundaries out of a fear that it'll rob them of joy. In reality, it tends to result in quite the opposite.

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